I like to think of any emotion I have as a choice.
I have written before in a blog about how science supports that we don’t have to be a victim of our emotions.
If I work on my thoughts about the emotion I want to feel, I can change that emotion — or generate a new one.
Two Types Of ‘I Don’t Know’
Choosing to be “Confused” or stuck in “I Don’t Know” mode about anything is generally not helpful to anyone.
There are two ways to interpret “I Don’t Know”:
1) “I Don’t Know” because you need more information. For example, this “I Don’t Know” could be when you are deciding on a car purchase, and you are not sure which one to buy. You may want to look into types of cars, their safety ratings, and prices. You may stay in “I Don’t Know” mode until you have accumulated enough details to make an informed decision. This type of “I Don’t Know” can help drive you to seek the right solution.
2) The second “I Don’t Know” mode is when you are unwilling or afraid to commit to a decision. For example, stating, “I don’t know what to do with my career,” typically makes you feel stuck. It usually does not move you forward in any way. Notice if you have been trapped in this thought pattern. When I am, I typically do nothing. Deciding to pick an area that you are interested in can be really helpful.
So often we get stuck in the “I Don’t Know” mode because we are afraid to make a ‘wrong choice.’ Or we know the choice to make, but we don’t want to voice that choice.
This “I Don’t Know” mode is never helpful.
Decide And Commit To Knowing Your Next Step
The solution to the stuck “I Don’t Know” mode Is Deciding and Committing.
If you are confused about your career or a relationship, Decide to take one small step to help you clear the confusion. Then, Commit fully to that next step.
For example, you could “Decide” to pursue one project at work that falls outside of your regular job description because you find that work interesting. You then commit for the next 3 or 6 months to that new work. You don’t allow yourself to go into the “I Don’t Know” stuck mode because you have made a decision and commitment to your next step.
The same holds true for a relationship you might say you “Don’t Know” what to do about. You decide to stay, to go, or to get counseling. You can then commit to a time frame that feels comfortable to you.
Knowing your next small step is so powerful and always keeps you unstuck!
Or, if you are still overwhelmed and not sure about your next small step, you might consider committing to work with a life coach who can help you find it! 😀
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