Why Being Sad Can Be So Good For You

Have you ever wanted to not feel a negative emotion, like sadness or anger?   

I certainly have!

Just this past weekend, I learned, again, what happens when I am not completely authentic with my emotions.   

I was completing master-coach training with Martha Beck. The training was capped off with an amazing retreat at a gorgeous horse ranch in the Blue Ridge Mountains.  

One exercise I was asked to complete involved standing near a horse in a round pen – a horse I had never met. Before entering the pen, I was instructed to think about a clear intention with the horse.   

My intention was to “connect and play” with him. 

When I entered the pen, I petted the horse, walked near and far from him, and I tried to coax movement.

The horse wouldn’t budge.

When the facilitator started asking me questions about other things happening in my life, including a situation with one of my kids, I burst into tears. 

The horse immediately walked across the barn and came up to nuzzle me.

After connecting with the horse, I was able to easily direct the horse throughout the pen using my energy. 

It was a powerful moment. 

Horses are super-sensitive animals and know when you are not congruent with your feelings. 

While I had the intention to “connect and play” with the horse, it was almost impossible to create that intention while I was feeling very sad about a situation.   

Once I was authentic about how I was feeling – and not trying to force a different feeling – the horse complied. I was able to easily “connect and play” with him, which was my original intention. 

And you know what else happened? My sadness passed.

But the truth is, once we acknowledge all our feelings, the good and the “bad,” they become more manageable and can help to clearly guide us.

So often, we run from our true feelings because they can feel overwhelming, and we don’t want to feel them. 

Don’t run from how you are “really” feeling. Allow it – and watch how quickly it can pass.

To all you moms out there … Happy Mother’s Day! 

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Kathy McCabe
Master Certified Life Coach

You Are Amazing

You are AMAZING.   

Can you own that?

We all have things about ourselves we want to change or improve, but most of us don’t spend enough time owning how special we really are. 

What would your life look like if you truly owned how unique, special and AMAZING you are right now – exactly as you are, without changing one thing.

Your uniqueness doesn’t come from a relationship, job, children, physical attributes, money or material possessions. 

While there are many reasons you are amazing, consider these two: 

  1. There are 7 billion people on this planet and no one is exactly like you!
  2. Experiencing and surviving –at some point in your life – the human conditions of stress, suffering, loss, disappointment, betrayal and sadness make you amazing!

The fact that you may have good relationships, or you are doing great work, or you are busy being a parent may make you EXTRA amazing. Or, the fact that you have risen above your challenges may make you EXTRA amazing!

Can you say “I am amazing” and truly believe it?

If you can’t, can you say something really positive about yourself that you believe? Can you say it – and OWN it?  

I’d love to hear it!!! 

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

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Relax To Help Heal


I had no idea how much tension I was carrying in my body until I started applying some of the mind-body coaching tools I have learned.  

Unlike animals, most of the busy women with whom I work have a hard time doing it.  

The simple act of being aware of tension in my body helped me relax in many ways. And, I believe, that awareness helped me heal or diminish some of my chronic ailments, such as back pain. 

When we are constantly in “flight-or-fight” mode, we release “stress-hormone” chemicals, like cortisol, into our bodies.

These chemicals can be helpful in preparing you for a stressful event.  

However, if we stay in chronic “stress mode,” this can lead to disease, according to Dr. Dean Ornish and other medical experts.  

Practicing relaxation techniques, according to Dr. Ornish, can increase blood flow to your heart and help your body access its natural healing abilities. 

Dr. Lissa Rankin, M.D., a best-selling author and expert on mind-body healing says:

  • Our bodies are self-healing organisms.  
  • Stressful thoughts hamper our ability to heal.
  • The body’s natural self-repair mechanisms only fully function when the nervous system is in relaxation response.

Instead of waiting for that vacation to relax, can you find a few minutes during your day to do nothing but sit and breathe? You can set a timer on your phone to remind yourself to do this. 

When you do this, notice if you are holding any tension in your shoulders or elsewhere in your body. 

If you are, just notice what you are thinking at that moment.

See if you can let go of one stressful thought – and then see how your body feels!



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