You Are Enough!

So much of the self-help industry is about becoming “better” in some way. 

Ironically, striving to be better can sometimes make us feel worse, like we are falling short in some way. 

I love helping my clients become their best selves – but never at the expense of beating themselves up.

If you don’t love and approve of yourself exactly how you are, right at this moment, it can be hard to improve or change – at least in a way that is fun and long lasting.   

Why? 

Because if we are not accepting and loving ourselves, we likely have an “inner mind critic” who is making us feel awful.   

When we feel awful about ourselves, it is hard to feel motivated and excited about changing or improving anything. 

This Valentine’s Day, is there some place in your life where you could be kinder to yourself? For example, if we are carrying some extra weight, can we learn to love, appreciate and honor our amazing body anyway?

Or if we unintentionally yell at our kids, can we try to love and honor what we are doing right with them? Can we show compassion towards ourselves?   

In that space of love and acceptance for ourselves, we create motivation for true and permanent changes.

You are enough in every way – even if you want to improve something!  

Happy Valentine’s Day!  

💜😀💜

Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

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Self Love 101

The Need for Self Love

On Valentine’s Day, we might buy cards, gifts or flowers, cook a special dinner, arrange a date, or simply say, “I love you,” to family and friends.

So often we forget and dismiss the need to commit acts of love towards ourselves. 💜

Worse yet, we might internally beat ourselves up for overeating, losing our temper, or for having a chaotic family life instead of the picture-perfect world we see in our Facebook feed.

When we internally shame ourselves, we usually are not the best company for anyone, including ourselves. Further, beating ourselves up doesn’t help us reach our goals.

Self Love Will Help You Reach Goals Faster — and Everyone is Happier

In my experience, dreams and goals are achieved much quicker and are long-lasting when you truly love yourself, love your mistakes and have compassion for yourself when you mess up, as we all do.

Magic happens when we truly love and take care of ourselves. Everyone benefits. We don’t look to our partners, friends or family to “make us happy.” Our resentment and anger diminishes or disappears.

Self Love 101: Noticing and Changing Your Inner Critic

So this month, give yourself the best Valentine by pouring on the love from you, to you. There are many ways to do this, but I believe the most fundamental one starts with your thoughts.

I and so many of my clients “think” we know what we are thinking, but quite often are unaware of our thoughts and beliefs until we stop and notice our thoughts.

Over the weekend, I was so inspired and grateful to work with an amazing, talented and successful group of women.

But more than once I heard a version of….”I am not enough”..or, “It is my fault…”

Once these women saw their “inner critic,” come to light, they knew that it was an “untrue” voice with “untrue beliefs.”

If your inner critic is just beating you up, it is time to challenge it and change that voice. You are so worth it!

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Stay tuned for more Self Love Tips next week.