Follow Your YES!

I used to analyze every decision I made.

I would list the pros and cons, and I would solicit advice from everyone. I rarely trusted myself.

Thankfully, I have stopped seeking everyone else’s opinion before my own.

When I saw that fashion designer Eileen Fisher was having a conference in New York featuring Gloria Steinem, my whole body tingled and said: “YES! I HAVE to go.” 

Even though I have such great admiration for both women, as did my mother, I didn’t know exactly why I felt such a strong urge to attend that conference. 

Eileen Fisher was an icon in my family growing up. My parents and Eileen’s parents were very good friends. When Eileen first started building her brand, my mom and her mom would travel to New York to visit Eileen as she was working hard on her new business. 

Eileen started her company from nothing. She had passion and vision. My mom talked about Eileen often.  

Eileen attended my mom’s wake in 1992, and that was the last time I saw her – until recently. 

Right before I walked into the conference, I told myself, “My mom is going to be with me.”

After Gloria Steinem spoke, I walked up to Eileen to say hello. She was stunned I was there. Then she said, “I have a picture of your mom on my phone!” 

What? I thought. This famous fashion designer has a picture of my mom – who died decades ago – on her phone?

I burst into tears. At that moment, I felt that my mom was indeed with me, and I knew why I needed to be at that conference. 

Eileen later told me the photo of my mom had been sent to her a few days before. She had been looking for photos of her early days, and did not have that many. The picture was of my mom and Eileen’s parents at one of Eileen’s first trunk shows.  

I am so grateful that I was able to attend this conference. I was able to connect again with Eileen and, in a metaphysical way, with my mom. I understood why I needed to follow my “YES.” Magical things happen when you do.

I am learning to listen – and more importantly, follow – when my whole body says “YES!” 

I invite you to start small. When you notice that your body really, really wants something, how does it feel? Where do you feel it? And when you feel it, are you saying YES to you?   

I’d love to hear!


Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

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Whose Business Is It?

“There’s my business, your business and God’s business.” — Byron Katie

“Alice” was working for a client on a project and spending many extra hours on it than what they had agreed, as the client had many additional demands. Alice had also charged the client an hourly rate that was much less than what her competition was billing, and Alice was losing money on the project. 

She was frustrated and depleted.

She did not want to ask for a rate increase because her client “couldn’t afford it.” 

When I asked her, “Whose business are you in about whether he can afford it?,” she paused. 

She realized that she was in the client’s “business,” not hers, as to whether the client could or couldn’t afford her services. 

Alice’s “business” was charging an hourly rate that felt fair and in integrity for her.

Alice renegotiated her contract and the client agreed to pay her more.  


The next time you are stressing about a problem whether it is at work, with your kids or with something beyond your control, ask yourself “Whose business am I in?” 

It might solve your problem!

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

P.S. If you are a mom or caregiver who often finds herself stressed out because you are frequently in the “business” of your kids, or others, you will love my retreat and classes about “Parenting With More Joy!” Email me at kathy@kathymccabelifecoach.comto find out more!

Happy Longevity Mindsets

“Growing older is inevitable. Aging is optional.”

This is a quote by longevity expert Dr. Mario Martinez, a neuropsychologist and author of “The Mind Body Code.” Dr. Martinez has extensively researched centenarians across the planet who have lived healthy, happy lives. He’s found these centenarians share several common mindsets. 

For example, they:

  • Find wisdom and novelty in every challenge.
  • Focus on the future and what they can do – not on past aches and pains. 
  • Know that forgiveness is an act of self love.

No matter how old you are, the lessons from these individuals can apply to your life right now. If you want to know more, check out his book!

I’d love to hear if any of these mindsets resonate with you!


P.S. – If you want to learn more about healthy & happy aging, join me and a small group of amazing women on an Ultimate Wellness Retreat in a “Blue Zone” in Costa Rica! Early-Bird Discount Expires 2/26/18! Find out more HERE!


P.S.S. – Local women, please join me on 3/3 to hear me speak about Internal Beauty & Joy Tips — Better Than Botox. Here is the LINK for the event.

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach