Whose Business Is It?

“There’s my business, your business and God’s business.” — Byron Katie

“Alice” was working for a client on a project and spending many extra hours on it than what they had agreed, as the client had many additional demands. Alice had also charged the client an hourly rate that was much less than what her competition was billing, and Alice was losing money on the project. 

She was frustrated and depleted.

She did not want to ask for a rate increase because her client “couldn’t afford it.” 

When I asked her, “Whose business are you in about whether he can afford it?,” she paused. 

She realized that she was in the client’s “business,” not hers, as to whether the client could or couldn’t afford her services. 

Alice’s “business” was charging an hourly rate that felt fair and in integrity for her.

Alice renegotiated her contract and the client agreed to pay her more.  


The next time you are stressing about a problem whether it is at work, with your kids or with something beyond your control, ask yourself “Whose business am I in?” 

It might solve your problem!

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

P.S. If you are a mom or caregiver who often finds herself stressed out because you are frequently in the “business” of your kids, or others, you will love my retreat and classes about “Parenting With More Joy!” Email me at kathy@kathymccabelifecoach.comto find out more!

Happy Longevity Mindsets

“Growing older is inevitable. Aging is optional.”

This is a quote by longevity expert Dr. Mario Martinez, a neuropsychologist and author of “The Mind Body Code.” Dr. Martinez has extensively researched centenarians across the planet who have lived healthy, happy lives. He’s found these centenarians share several common mindsets. 

For example, they:

  • Find wisdom and novelty in every challenge.
  • Focus on the future and what they can do – not on past aches and pains. 
  • Know that forgiveness is an act of self love.

No matter how old you are, the lessons from these individuals can apply to your life right now. If you want to know more, check out his book!

I’d love to hear if any of these mindsets resonate with you!


P.S. – If you want to learn more about healthy & happy aging, join me and a small group of amazing women on an Ultimate Wellness Retreat in a “Blue Zone” in Costa Rica! Early-Bird Discount Expires 2/26/18! Find out more HERE!


P.S.S. – Local women, please join me on 3/3 to hear me speak about Internal Beauty & Joy Tips — Better Than Botox. Here is the LINK for the event.

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

What’s Better Than A Cup Of Coffee?


Do you ever notice how you FEEL when you get something you really, really want?

Most of us really want the “feeling” of having that “thing” we want.

Quite often, we are seeking feelings of peace, excitement, love, security or joy by obtaining the “thing” we want.

For example, we may want the feeling of relaxation by going on vacation. Or we may want the feelings of contentment and energy by losing unwanted weight.

But here’s what is CRAZY…

When we create the feeling NOW of having the “thing” we want, we are much more likely to get it!

AND we get the added bonus of feeling great NOW.

So HOW do you create that feeling you want now?

I created this short meditation, based on the work of Dr. Martha Beck, for some of my clients to help them find that feeling NOW!

As one client said, this meditation if “Better than a cup of coffee!”  

Try this “Create Your Future Now” meditation (4:07).

Enjoy – and please let me know how you FEEL after doing it!


P.S.– Want to learn more easy tools to help you Create What You REALLY Want? Email me to join my small-group coaching program starting Saturday 11/3!

Email me here to learn about my 2019 groups!

Kathy McCabe
Life Coach