Simple Agreements For A Happy Life

Don Miguel Ruiz is a surgeon and author who had a near-death experience that changed his life. After that experience, he created the “Five Agreements,” based on ancient Native American Toltec wisdom. When we break these agreements, according to Mr. Ruiz, we cause needless suffering to ourselves and others. Here are the agreements, followed by my thoughts about them. 

  1. Be Impeccable With Your Word.
    Do not break your word, and always say what you mean. Don’t gossip and do not, especially, break your word to yourself. If you tell yourself you will go to the gym, do what you say! Resist gossiping about others and instead put that energy into something positive. If everyone did that, it would be amazing for our world.
  2. Don’t Take Anything Personally.
    What people do – or don’t do – is not because of you. Quite often, people are choosing what they want or avoiding pain and their actions have nothing to do with you. Do not worry about other people’s opinions or actions, and you will avoid suffering. For sensitive people, this is a very hard one, but I love the idea. 
  3. Don’t Make Assumptions.
    Don’t assume anything about anyone or anything. Ask questions and express what you want. “With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life,” Mr. Ruiz says.
  4. Always Do Your Best.
    This is probably my favorite agreement because it recognizes that we all fail, and that we need to try again when we mess up. “Your best” may differ from day to day. But if you honor doing your best, you can avoid beating yourself up when you break an agreement.
  5. Be Skeptical, But Learn To Listen.
    Listening is a very powerful skill. Use the power of doubt to determine whether something is really true. You can decide whether to react or not react, agree or disagree, depending on what you want.   

To learn more about these agreements, check out Don Miguel Ruiz’s book “The Four Agreements” and his book with his son, Don Jose Ruiz, “The Fifth Agreement.”

I’d love to hear if you are trying these agreements!

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

How Do You Show Up?

A wonderful, kind, “life-of-the-party” and nearly 50-year-old man died in our community this past week. He had young children, a beautiful wife, and he was loved by many people.

A few years ago, one of my brothers also died at age 51.

It is so heart-wrenching when people you love die.

How do losses of our loved ones make “sense?”

They don’t.

When we are reminded about life’s fragility, we can do our best to help grieving families.

And we can recognize the truth that none of us truly knows how long we – or our loved ones – will be on this earth.

We can appreciate ourselves and our loved ones now.

We can ask ourselves: How do we show up each day?

Are we filled with pettiness, complaints, anger or resentment?

Today, is there someone or something you can:

  • stop complaining about – and perhaps take action to improve?
  • let go of?
  • forgive?
  • show kindness to?

I need to be reminded to do all of these things. I would love to hear if this helps you!


Kathy McCabe
Life Coach



Inspiration…from Maria Shriver!

Here is some inspiration!!

Maria Shriver’s “Sunday Paper” is full of inspiring stories!

She interviews people every week who have “passion and purpose.”  Right up my alley! 😀

Here is last week’s paper:

Follow the links to read and listen to the inspiring stories: A Gold Star Mom, Elizabeth Smart and a male caregiver.

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

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