“Self-Love” Tips

In Self Love 101, I blogged about the importance of committing acts of love towards yourself. I am following up with some of my favorite “self-love” tips:  

  1. Stop To Notice Your Thoughts.
    • Most of us have more than 50,000 thoughts a day. We “think” we know what we are thinking, but until we take time to stop and notice those thoughts, we are unaware of them.
    • A great way to notice your thoughts is through daily meditation, journaling (I offer a free journaling tool to help you do that), or setting a random reminder on your phone to notice what you are thinking.
    • Once you are able to “notice” your thinking, you can then determine whether your thoughts about yourself are helpful, loving, and make you feel better.
  2. Change Your Inner-Critic Chatter.
    • Many of us have an “inner critic” that is not loving towards ourselves.
    • Once we have noticed what we are thinking, we can make a conscious decision to stop our inner critic from taking over.
    • When the inner critic starts saying, “You are not good enough…” you can tell it to “STOP.”  You then have the opportunity to choose new thoughts that are more kind and helpful
  3. Practice Self-Compassion.
    • Quite often, the inner critic wants to “shame” us when we don’t meet a goal or veer off a diet plan.
    • Take 5 to 15 minutes a day to do a “Loving Kindness” meditation. It is a simple, self-compassion exercise and it’s very powerful.
    • When we are able to be compassionate with ourselves, our love for ourselves — and for others — will increase.
  4. Schedule Yourself.
    • Put yourself on the calendar!
    • Schedule your “me” time, in writing, every day.
    • Include your meditation or “quiet time,” in addition to exercise. Also, schedule fun activities you really want to do.
    • “Fun” is whatever lights you up!  It could be a walk in the woods, a manicure, or a trip to an art gallery.
    • When you put YOU on the calendar, you are much more likely to enjoy the activities you want, and you will grow to value and love yourself even more.

I’d love to hear if these tips help you!


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Self Love 101

The Need for Self Love

On Valentine’s Day, we might buy cards, gifts or flowers, cook a special dinner, arrange a date, or simply say, “I love you,” to family and friends.

So often we forget and dismiss the need to commit acts of love towards ourselves. 💜

Worse yet, we might internally beat ourselves up for overeating, losing our temper, or for having a chaotic family life instead of the picture-perfect world we see in our Facebook feed.

When we internally shame ourselves, we usually are not the best company for anyone, including ourselves. Further, beating ourselves up doesn’t help us reach our goals.

Self Love Will Help You Reach Goals Faster — and Everyone is Happier

In my experience, dreams and goals are achieved much quicker and are long-lasting when you truly love yourself, love your mistakes and have compassion for yourself when you mess up, as we all do.

Magic happens when we truly love and take care of ourselves. Everyone benefits. We don’t look to our partners, friends or family to “make us happy.” Our resentment and anger diminishes or disappears.

Self Love 101: Noticing and Changing Your Inner Critic

So this month, give yourself the best Valentine by pouring on the love from you, to you. There are many ways to do this, but I believe the most fundamental one starts with your thoughts.

I and so many of my clients “think” we know what we are thinking, but quite often are unaware of our thoughts and beliefs until we stop and notice our thoughts.

Over the weekend, I was so inspired and grateful to work with an amazing, talented and successful group of women.

But more than once I heard a version of….”I am not enough”..or, “It is my fault…”

Once these women saw their “inner critic,” come to light, they knew that it was an “untrue” voice with “untrue beliefs.”

If your inner critic is just beating you up, it is time to challenge it and change that voice. You are so worth it!

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Stay tuned for more Self Love Tips next week.