Month: June 2019

What Would Your Best🌟 Self Do?

Posted on June 14, 2019

Do you ever struggle with a decision about what to do in a certain situation? Your mind might be murky and flooded with thoughts like:   

  • “You should do this – no, you should do that.” 
  • “These are the pros, and these are the cons.”
  • “I don’t know what the right decision is!” 

You want to make the “right” decision, but because the situation is not “black-and-white,” you aren’t sure what to do?

Try asking what your best – or higher – self would do!

Like many of us at times, I can feel confused, petty, whiny or fearful about something when making a decision that has no single right answer.   

However, if I take time to ask: What would “the best version of me,” or “my higher self” do in this situation, I often am able to quickly decide.  

To figure out what your “best self” would do, it can help to connect to God, Buddha or the Universe or Yoda 😊– whether that is through prayer, meditation or journaling. This can often help us make a decision that aligns with our true values. 

Stop being confused. Your “best self” knows the answer!

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Kathy McCabe
Master Certified Life & Business Coach

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One Quick Way to Improve Any Relationship 💗

Posted on June 5, 2019

Looking for a quick way to improve any relationship?

“Catch them being good!”   

This is one of my favorite parenting tips, but this mantra can apply to any relationship.  

“Catch them being good” is to consciously notice and verbally state what you like about someone’s behavior, ideally, several times a day. In one of my current groups, the “homework” is to notice and comment at least five times a day!

So instead of focusing on how your partner or child doesn’t do the dishes, is always running late, or perhaps picks his nose too often, try noticing – and verbally praising – how you like it when they “hang up their towel in the bathroom.” Or how they “ask how you are feeling” or “get you a cup a coffee.”  

What we focus on expands. 

When we let go of or reduce our criticism of another person, surprising things happen. 

In my experience, it often quickly changes the relationship and makes it more positive. The receiver of praise often feels more validated and, interestingly, that individual is much more likely to reduce those negative habits that bother you.  

So if you want to improve any relationship – your partner, your child, a friend or in-law – I challenge you to “catch them being good” for one week! Try consciously noticing what great things they are doing, and try your best to let go of other complaints! 

Good luck – and please share with me what happens!

💜😀💜

Kathy McCabe
Master Certified Life & Business Coach,
Recovering Lawyer, Work-in-Progress Mom & Human

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