Follow Your YES!

I used to analyze every decision I made.

I would list the pros and cons, and I would solicit advice from everyone. I rarely trusted myself.

Thankfully, I have stopped seeking everyone else’s opinion before my own.

When I saw that fashion designer Eileen Fisher was having a conference in New York featuring Gloria Steinem, my whole body tingled and said: “YES! I HAVE to go.” 

Even though I have such great admiration for both women, as did my mother, I didn’t know exactly why I felt such a strong urge to attend that conference. 

Eileen Fisher was an icon in my family growing up. My parents and Eileen’s parents were very good friends. When Eileen first started building her brand, my mom and her mom would travel to New York to visit Eileen as she was working hard on her new business. 

Eileen started her company from nothing. She had passion and vision. My mom talked about Eileen often.  

Eileen attended my mom’s wake in 1992, and that was the last time I saw her – until recently. 

Right before I walked into the conference, I told myself, “My mom is going to be with me.”

After Gloria Steinem spoke, I walked up to Eileen to say hello. She was stunned I was there. Then she said, “I have a picture of your mom on my phone!” 

What? I thought. This famous fashion designer has a picture of my mom – who died decades ago – on her phone?

I burst into tears. At that moment, I felt that my mom was indeed with me, and I knew why I needed to be at that conference. 

Eileen later told me the photo of my mom had been sent to her a few days before. She had been looking for photos of her early days, and did not have that many. The picture was of my mom and Eileen’s parents at one of Eileen’s first trunk shows.  

I am so grateful that I was able to attend this conference. I was able to connect again with Eileen and, in a metaphysical way, with my mom. I understood why I needed to follow my “YES.” Magical things happen when you do.

I am learning to listen – and more importantly, follow – when my whole body says “YES!” 

I invite you to start small. When you notice that your body really, really wants something, how does it feel? Where do you feel it? And when you feel it, are you saying YES to you?   

I’d love to hear!


Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

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Why Being Sad Can Be So Good For You

Have you ever wanted to not feel a negative emotion, like sadness or anger?   

I certainly have!

Just this past weekend, I learned, again, what happens when I am not completely authentic with my emotions.   

I was completing master-coach training with Martha Beck. The training was capped off with an amazing retreat at a gorgeous horse ranch in the Blue Ridge Mountains.  

One exercise I was asked to complete involved standing near a horse in a round pen – a horse I had never met. Before entering the pen, I was instructed to think about a clear intention with the horse.   

My intention was to “connect and play” with him. 

When I entered the pen, I petted the horse, walked near and far from him, and I tried to coax movement.

The horse wouldn’t budge.

When the facilitator started asking me questions about other things happening in my life, including a situation with one of my kids, I burst into tears. 

The horse immediately walked across the barn and came up to nuzzle me.

After connecting with the horse, I was able to easily direct the horse throughout the pen using my energy. 

It was a powerful moment. 

Horses are super-sensitive animals and know when you are not congruent with your feelings. 

While I had the intention to “connect and play” with the horse, it was almost impossible to create that intention while I was feeling very sad about a situation.   

Once I was authentic about how I was feeling – and not trying to force a different feeling – the horse complied. I was able to easily “connect and play” with him, which was my original intention. 

And you know what else happened? My sadness passed.

But the truth is, once we acknowledge all our feelings, the good and the “bad,” they become more manageable and can help to clearly guide us.

So often, we run from our true feelings because they can feel overwhelming, and we don’t want to feel them. 

Don’t run from how you are “really” feeling. Allow it – and watch how quickly it can pass.

To all you moms out there … Happy Mother’s Day! 

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Kathy McCabe
Master Certified Life Coach

Know Your Why

As Maria Shriver says in her fabulous Sunday Paper, don’t eliminate the things you care about in life but get “…laser-focused on why they matter to you so that….you can get clear on your goals and gracefully say ‘no’ to everything that would get in the way of them.”

So well said! ❤❤

Take time to know WHY you are doing anything!