Love & Boundaries

You can love someone and still not do everything they want.

You can love someone and still say “no.” 

You can love someone and still not have dinner with them. 

You can love someone who is super challenging and still keep your distance.

You can love someone while taking really good care of yourself and loving you.

How are you creating boundaries for yourself today to love you?

I’d love to hear! 

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

My Secret To Enjoying Every Holiday!

Do the holidays ever leave you feeling depleted or annoyed?

Many of us will celebrate Passover or Easter this weekend. And we will gather with family and friends.

Sometimes holiday celebrations can be fun. Other times, they leave us feeling upset or exhausted if we are hosting, or if we have challenging family members.  

I find that coming up with a few mantras before such gatherings is enormously helpful. 

 Here are my favorites:

  • “Everyone is doing the best they can.” I believe most people are doing the best they can in the moment, even if they are unkind or mean. It is one of my favorite mantras. I remind myself of this when I am around challenging people. 
  • “It is OK to ask for help.” I typically host family gatherings. I remind myself that it is perfectly OK to ask for as much help as I need – including help cleaning up!
  • “I will make myself happy.” This is a reminder to establish boundaries where I need them, and to make sure that any holiday celebration I attend will include time for myself so that I do not feel depleted.

I’d love to hear if these mantras help you!   

Enjoy your holiday!

💜😀💜 P.S.– If you are a mom or caregiver who needs a break for YOU and want some simple tools to increase your JOY, come to my Moms’ Day Retreat on 4/28! Special Offers are expiring, and registration is closing soon! Sign Up HERE.  

Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

Posted in Joy

Do You Have A “Joy List?”

A Joy List is a list of things you can do that will bring you JOY – right now – no matter what else is happening in your life.😍

When my client, “Lena,” created her list, she was amazed to discover so many of her “joys” were simple and cost nothing. Lena’s list included things like: “Look up at the sky.”☀️

Today my Joy List includes: 1) playing with my dog, Buttercup; 🐕  2) taking a walk; 3) playing fun music; 4) dancing with my daughter;💃  5) doing a headstand!

I have noticed that I feel the most joy when I am playing, and I try to infuse that playful feeling into all that I do.  

I keep my list taped to a wall so that I am reminded to practice finding my joy, everyday – no matter what. It is always a choice.

If you want a simple way to create more JOY in your life, make a Joy List. 😃

Here are some tips:

  1. Take 15 minutes and write down at least 10 things that fill you with delight. Do not censor yourself.  
  2. Once you have your own list, post it where you will see it.
  3. Make a practice of doing at least one thing on your Joy List everyday.

I would love to hear what is on your Joy List! Feel free to post in the comments!

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

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