Relax To Help Heal


I had no idea how much tension I was carrying in my body until I started applying some of the mind-body coaching tools I have learned.  

Unlike animals, most of the busy women with whom I work have a hard time doing it.  

The simple act of being aware of tension in my body helped me relax in many ways. And, I believe, that awareness helped me heal or diminish some of my chronic ailments, such as back pain. 

When we are constantly in “flight-or-fight” mode, we release “stress-hormone” chemicals, like cortisol, into our bodies.

These chemicals can be helpful in preparing you for a stressful event.  

However, if we stay in chronic “stress mode,” this can lead to disease, according to Dr. Dean Ornish and other medical experts.  

Practicing relaxation techniques, according to Dr. Ornish, can increase blood flow to your heart and help your body access its natural healing abilities. 

Dr. Lissa Rankin, M.D., a best-selling author and expert on mind-body healing says:

  • Our bodies are self-healing organisms.  
  • Stressful thoughts hamper our ability to heal.
  • The body’s natural self-repair mechanisms only fully function when the nervous system is in relaxation response.

Instead of waiting for that vacation to relax, can you find a few minutes during your day to do nothing but sit and breathe? You can set a timer on your phone to remind yourself to do this. 

When you do this, notice if you are holding any tension in your shoulders or elsewhere in your body. 

If you are, just notice what you are thinking at that moment.

See if you can let go of one stressful thought – and then see how your body feels!



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Don’t Forget To Put YOU On Your Holiday Gift List

Are you doing or buying for everyone else except for YOU? 

As year-end approaches, it is easy to feel depleted and put ourselves last on the list.

There is an inverse relationship between resentment and self-care.

Often, when we are “doing” or buying for everyone else but ourselves, we can become resentful or angry. This is a normal human response.

While I have zero medical training, I believe that if we don’t resolve or express anger and resentment in healthy ways, it can show up in our bodies – whether through ailments or through our energy. 

The best way to avoid anger and resentment is to diminish or prevent it from happening in the first place. 

Regularly practicing radical self-care will help you do that.

Self-care includes rewarding yourself with gifts and treats – especially when you have a lot going on!

So this holiday season, give yourself a gift that lights you up. 

Your “gift” to yourself could be carving out time to connect with old friends, visiting an art museum or going dancing. It might be making sure that if your partner doesn’t get you that special gift you want, you just buy it for yourself!  

I’d love to hear about the “what-lights-you-up” gift you give yourself this holiday season.

Happy Holidays!  


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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

The Best Gift Is Being Present

“BANG!” I heard this as my car collided with another and I slammed my brakes to a screeching halt.

I wasn’t sure what had just happened. I wasn’t paying attention.

I allowed myself to be distracted about something that could have waited. I was looking down at my phone. I am mortified and embarrassed that I caused this accident.

And, I am extremely grateful that no one was hurt.

“How Could This Be A Good Thing?”

When anything “bad” happens in my life, I keep asking: “How can this be a good thing?”

One of the drivers in the accident told me she had been struck three different times by a distracted driver. Yikes! This is a problem.

Yes, it is ironic that I caused this accident because I use mindfulness techniques in what I teach and how I coach.

I am always teaching more of what I want to learn!

The idea that “multi-tasking” is productive is a fallacy. Some experts say it is detrimental to our brains.

And there is a culture that says being “busy” is a good thing.

But if we are living with “busy-ness” and not present, we make mistakes, we allow things like our cellphones to distract us, and we miss what is right in front of us.

Being present and doing one thing at a time does not only apply to driving.

Turning off screens during meals, giving our kids our undivided attention, or truly listening to a friend without distractions – these are all gifts of presence.

As these busy holidays approach, let’s all think more about presence than presents!

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

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