Stress-Free Tips For Your Holiday Enjoyment

Here are a few tips about creating stress-free holidays I shared last night at the “Mom’s Night Out” event I hosted:

  1. Decide On An Intention For The Holidays. If you tend to get stressed or overwhelmed with all of the “to-dos” during the holidays, remember that it is your thoughts that create this feeling. If you are constantly thinking, “I have too much to do during the holidays,” you will feel overwhelmed. One way to fix this is to DECIDE on an intention. If you decide you will have a “stress-free holiday,” then you likely will feel less overwhelmed. Once you decide what your intention is, REMIND yourself of it on a daily basis. Your attention needs to follow your intention. When you are asked to do something or contemplating whether to do something, ask: “Does this align with my intention?”
  2. Prepare Yourself For Drama From Any Drama-Makers In Your Life! If you have people in your life who tend to create drama, anticipate that they will continue to create drama, expect it – and then prepare yourself! For example, extended family dinners can be full of drama. Let’s remind ourselves that we can’t control others, and people will continue to act the way they act. But we always have a choice about how we will respond. If you mentally prepare and protect yourself for such drama, it will be much harder to get upset or feel challenged by it. If your mother-in-law inappropriately always asks you when you are going to “lose that weight,” be ready with an answer – and an exit strategy – which could be the bathroom, if need be!
  3. Ask Yourself: “What Are Some Experiences I Would Love To Have During This Holiday Season?” Take time to think about what you love about the holidays, and what you really want to do. Do you like looking at holiday lights in the city, having a special holiday lunch or hosting a cookie exchange? Write down your ideas. Now, put these experiences on your calendar. Likewise, if you really want a certain gift, TELL your loved ones, or buy it for yourself! Don’t let yourself be disappointed.

Next week I will share a few more tips… Here’s to YOUR Stress-Free Holidays!

I’d love to hear if these tips help YOU!


Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

Do You Have An Attitude of Gratitude?

Do you ever stop and notice when to feel grateful for things we often take for granted?

Hearing about my San Francisco friends wearing masks when they go outside because of hazardous air makes me realize how lucky we are to breathe clean air.

When we take a few minutes to recognize the often-overlooked things we take for granted, like clean air or clean water, we can shift our thinking to see even more things to be grateful for.

When we have an attitude of gratitude, we feel better.

And, when we have an attitude of gratitude, our worries diminish.

We can’t be worried and grateful at the same time.

Our gratitude becomes contagious to ourselves and to others.

I’d love to hear about the small things you are grateful for! Post a comment below.

Happy Thanksgiving!


P.S.– Local friends: Please join me for a Fun & Free Mom’s Night Out on 11/28!

P.S.S.– Save the date to attend my New Year’s EXHALE Retreat on 1/13/19. Details coming!

Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

What Defines You?

Have you ever become “defined” by a hardship?

We become the hardship when we are constantly talking or worrying about our woes or sitting in self-pity that consumes us and becomes our identity. I certainly have defined myself by a hardship before!

Klyn Elsbury, born with cystic fibrosis, was told to make end-of-life arrangements at 25 years old.

Yet despite her significant daily challenges just to breathe, Klyn is now 30 years old.  She is  thriving and loving her life.

Kyln’s illness isn’t cured. She regularly spends between 3 and 6 months a year in the hospital. She isn’t defined by her illness. She doesn’t complain or identify as a victim. She runs a company and is an inspirational speaker.

Klyn isn’t defined by her hardship.

Likewise, my neighbor who recently died wasn’t defined by his devastating diagnosis and prognosis. He lived fully and remained a positive force until the day he died. At his funeral, his wife said she was not going to be defined by his death.


Hardships, deaths, illnesses or tragedies affect, or will affect, us all. It is the not-so-great part of being human.

And grieving about a hardship is different than being defined by one.

Grieving is an important process of acceptance and getting through tough times.

But allowing the hardship to become our identity is a choice.

There is always a choice as to how we respond to anything in our lives.

Do you know of someone who is not being defined by a hardship? I’d love to hear about them!

And if you don’t tell me, please tell them how they inspire YOU!


Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

P.S.–If you want to choose to no longer be defined by a challenge in your life but you are not sure how to do it, schedule a free mini-session with me to get some help!  As L. said, “The mini session was so helpful and completely shifted my mindset!” Email me if you are interested in scheduling one!

P.S.S.–Local Moms! Please join me for a free & fun Mom’s Night Out, on 11/28/18 at Valley Lodge Tavern in Wilmette. Watch your email for more details!