What Can You Let Go Of?

To create something new, it is helpful to let go of what is no longer serving you.

Unless you take time to declutter first, buying new clothes and shoving them into an overstuffed closet with old clothes will only make it difficult to find those new pieces when you want them. 

And your stress level will probably escalate when you try to find something you really want to wear.  

Your brain is like that.  

Scientists estimate that we have more than 50,000 thoughts each day. If you don’t make time to declutter thoughts that are limiting you, you will have a hard time finding thoughts that empower you.  

What Thoughts No Longer Serve You?

As I watch the leaves drop during this fall season, I am thinking about thoughts I need to drop, thoughts that no longer serve me.  

They include:

  • the need for permission 
  • the need for approval
  • the need for validation

I’m also letting go of thoughts that say – in any way – I am not enough. 

We are all enough – as moms, women, friends and daughters. 

When we let go of these limiting beliefs that keep us stuck, we make room to see and use new beliefs that serve us and help us achieve our goals. This helps us create lives we love. Meanwhile, we are also teaching our children the same strategies. 

So during this fall season, is there one belief that you can let go of that no longer serves you?

I’d love to hear about it! 

P.S.–If you need help letting go of those thoughts that no longer serve you…consider joining a group to help:

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

Feeling Stuck? Watch Out For Patterns!

“The way you do one thing, is the way you do EVERYTHING….”

This is a common saying in the coaching world. It means that the way we handle small things can show up in the way we handle big ones.  

If you feel “stuck” in any area of your life, here is a great question to ask yourself: “Is this the way I do everything?” Notice whether you have any patterns you could break.   

For example, my client “Grace” excitedly signed up for one of my groups that was geared towards helping her launch a business. Grace really enjoyed the first meeting, the content, and the other members. 

However, after one week Grace wanted to drop out. I told her I supported her, no matter what her decision, but I asked if this was a pattern for her? Was this the way she did everything? Did she start things and not finish them?  

Upon reflection, Grace realized she had a dozen other projects and commitments she had started but not finished. 

She quickly saw a pattern: signing up for something that would help her, then dropping out. She was doing this in several areas. This pattern was keeping her stuck and not serving her. This revelation helped her move forward with her commitment to the group and her dream for her business.

There is nothing wrong with having patterns, but patterns can keep us stuck when they don’t help us. So once you have identified a pattern, ask yourself:

  • Does it help me reach my goals?
  • Does it improve my relationships?
  • Does it better my health?

If your patterns don’t serve you, consider changing one!! Check out my other blogs about becoming unstuck:

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Kathy

P.S.–If you need help getting UNSTUCK…Consider joining a group to help:

Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

Are You Stuck In Shame?

Shame Keeps Us Stuck. Taking Responsibility Frees Us.

How often have you felt guilty or “ashamed” about yourself or about something you did?

For example, have you ever felt “ashamed” about:

  • yelling at your kids?
  • being overweight?
  • drinking one too many glasses of wine the night before?
  • not being further along in your career than you “should” be?

As Don Miguel Ruiz writes: “Human beings are the only species on the planet who punish themselves over and over again.”

Repeatedly feeling ashamed just keeps us stuck.

How Can You Take Responsibility Instead of Sitting in Shame?

When I feel “shame,” it is because of my thinking. It is an emotion that really doesn’t move me forward.

When I feel guilty or ashamed, I try to be curious and compassionate about why I am thinking that way.

Then I do my best to take Responsibility for what I am feeling badly about.

For example, if I yelled at my kids (which never happens 😀) and I didn’t want to, I might feel ashamed.

However, if I take responsibility for yelling and admit I was wrong, my shame dissipates.

I can say to my child, “I am sorry I yelled, but I was very angry that you lied to me about X.” If this happens again, rather than yelling at you, I am going to enforce the consequence of Y.”

How Taking Responsibility Can Free Us of Shame

In response to the questions above, ask yourself this – instead of feeling ashamed…

  • How can I take responsibility for my weight and health, and also get support to help me lose it?
  • How can I take responsibility for drinking too much and make a plan to not do it again?
  • How can I take responsibility for where I am in my career and make a plan to figure out my next steps?

As with everything, remember to be curious and compassionate about your “shame” first.

Then see how you can take responsibility – even in the tiniest way.

Try it, and let me know if you feel more FREE!

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Kathy

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach