“I Tripled My Income On A Project…”
…my client “Rachel”* excitedly told 🎉 me after a recent coaching session.
Rachel wasn’t planning to ask for a rate increase but decided she deserved one. She had some fears about how her client “John” would react.
Initially, John did not respond well. He was upset and tried to argue over why Rachel shouldn’t receive more money.
Rachel, however, stood her ground.
Not only did John agree to triple Rachel’s income 💰 on a project and increase her compensation on commissions, something else interesting happened.
John had a new respect for Rachel. He told Rachel that by advocating for herself, she had showed John that “Rachel was worth it.”
When We Teach People To Treat Us Better, They Often Respect Us MORE.
Sometimes we need to teach people WHY we are “worth it.”
Whether it is a personal, work or parental relationship, sometimes we need to articulate WHY we should be paid more, work less, enjoy more flexibility or be treated with more respect.
We then need to ASK 📣 specifically for what we want.
Often, when we teach people how to treat us, they will respect us MORE, just like John did with Rachel.
Once You Have Asked For What You Want, Have Your Boundaries Ready.
And once we explain WHY, we need to set boundaries for what is and what is not acceptable.
- Rachel was ready for John to say “no,” and she had organized her plan to continue working for him, for a while, but eventually quit.
- “Becky” was prepared to work from home more and say “no” to extra projects in order to spend more time with her family. She was ready for some “disapproving” looks or comments from her boss and colleagues — and she was ready to look for another job, if needed.
- “Lauren” was set to leave the room and to remove media privileges if her children yelled or were disrespectful towards her.
How Are You Asking Others To Treat You?
Take a moment to think about how you want to be treated BETTER in a work or personal relationship.
If needed, explain WHY you should be paid more, or work less, or be treated with more respect.
Then, ASK for exactly what you want.
Be READY for the worst-case scenario… but EXPECT the best!
You may be really surprised.😀
I’d love to hear how you are asking to be treated!
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P.S.– Local Friends, please come to hear me speak on “How To Have More Freedom, Money & Joy… By Doing Less,” at the Women’s “Be a Better You Expo,” this Sunday, August 19, at The Westin Northshore Chicago. I’d 💜 to connect with you!
P.S.S.– If you want some help on creating more Freedom, Money or Joy for YOU, schedule a FREE mini coaching session with me HERE. I am only doing 2 per week, so grab your spot NOW!
*P.S.S.S.– “Rachel,” “Becky” and “Lauren” are all REAL clients, with names and details changed!