Did You Take The 5 Day Challenge?

By now, I hope some of you have tried doing some daily journaling by using my “Create A Great Day Tool.” This tool serves as a “prompt” to help you get your thoughts on paper.

As I have seen over and over with myself and clients, journaling a little bit every day helps you understand what runs through your brain.

And remember: What runs through your brain, RUNS your life. 😀

You also should have received Ten Tips For More Real Joy Now as featured in The Mother List. I’d love to hear which tips have helped you the most!!

Finally, THANKS to all who have participated in the 5-Day Challenge!!! 

hope you all tried taking out the words “should” and “can’t” from your vocabulary.  

I know that I practiced better language…. OWNING what I wanted to do or not do, and what I wanted to think or not think about. I’d LOVE to hear how it went for YOU!

As some of you told me, you felt more EMPOWERED in your daily choices!! 

 🎶 YEAH!!  🎶

When we take RESPONSIBILITY for our language

We then take RESPONSIBILITY for our choices

When we take responsibility for our choices, we then take RESPONSIBILITY for our peace, happiness & JOY!

Our JOY is too IMPORTANT to give to someone else – and it DOES NOT depend on someone else!

Lastly, I highly encourage you to sign up HERE for a FREE Mini Coaching Session with me to help you learn a tool to increase your Joy NOW. I am only doing a few a week, and I would LOVE to support you! As different clients have said, coaching with me has:

  • “greatly improved my career and personal relationships”
  •  helped me “live more fully”
  •  helped me “live more joyfully in all areas of my life”

Check out more reviews HERE.

In case you missed any of the tools I mention above, I’ve linked to them below!

To A JOY-FILLED and Happy 4th of July! 🎆🎆🎆

Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

P.S.— I AM OFFERING TWO SUMMER COURSES on ‘FINDING REAL JOY.’ My in-person group starts Tuesday 7/17 (at noon) and meets for 5 weeks. Click HERE if you are interested. If you can’t make Tuesdays, I’m offering the same group course on Real Joy ONLINE on Fridays starting 7/20. Click HERE for more information.

P.S.S.— FOR LOCAL FRIENDS…I am offering a fun interactive workshop on Wednesday, July 11, at Neshama Yoga at 7 pm. Email me if you are interested!

Create A Great Day Tool

10 Tips For Real Joy Now

Your Language Matters

A while back I was published in The Motherlist for A Life Coach’s Advice on Real Joy. I cited 10 tips for finding real joy NOW.

Reviewing this list inspired me to create a 5 Day Challenge about Tip #8: “Drop ‘Should’ from Your Vocabulary.”

CHECK OUT this 2 Minute video about The Challenge below!!

For JUST 5 days, try NOT to use the word “should” or “can’t” in your vocabulary. (Instead, try using “I choose or choose not to” OR “I won’t”)

Language is so POWERFUL.

Removing these words from your vocabulary is a SIMPLE, but not always easy 😀, way to create some Real Joy NOW.

Leave a comment below if you are “IN” for this challenge!

How To See Yourself Better


“Audrey,” a copy editor, recently came to me quite upset that she had spent her weekend working on a “rush” job for her client, Paul.

Audrey was convinced that “Paul didn’t value her” because Paul had made a challenging, last-minute request that ruined Audrey’s weekend.

In addition to being a “demanding” client, Paul routinely did not pay his bills on time.

As we did some coaching, it became clear that Audrey wasn’t valuing Audrey when she agreed to change her weekend plans to finish work for Paul.

Audrey decided to own the thought, “I value me.”

When she began valuing herself, her time and her work, she made changes to her client agreement. She included parameters for weekend work, the extra costs involved, and the necessity of being paid promptly.

She then billed Paul for the extensive work. Paul paid her promptly. 😁


 Noticing your part in a situation is learning to look at the facts in an objective way.

I like to use the phrase, what is “your side of the fence?”

In every situation, there are two parts, and we each play a part.

Simply asking, “How did I contribute to the situation?” is very powerful.

Audrey’s complaint about Paul not “valuing” her was really a complaint about herself.

When Audrey took responsibility for her actions in the situation, she could then give Paul parameters for working with her.

Paul may still make last-minute requests or choose not to pay her on time, but now Audrey can decide whether to work with him – or not.


The next time you find yourself upset with someone or criticizing them for a particular action, try this:

  1. Take a moment to see where that criticism could apply to yourself. Have a sense of humor about it!
  2. Determine how you may have contributed to the situation.
  3. Don’t beat yourself – or the other person – up! We are ALL work-in-progress humans. 😉
  4. Do your best to frame the situation in an objective, non-personal way.

When we own our criticisms of others, it empowers us to take responsibility for the parts of the situation that we have control over.


Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

P.S.—If you want to turn your criticisms into positive actions to make your life AWESOME…join my next “Transform Your Life!” Group starting this Saturday 4/28!!