Don’t Forget To Play!

As summer winds down, how much have you played?

As we get older, some of us tend to minimize the importance of play.

We have responsibilities, tasks and “other things to do.”

Why Play Is So Important

We know about the importance of play for kids. For instance, play-based pre-schools help children develop their social skills and their imaginations. We also know that play promotes concentration, confidence and emotional well-being.

For adults, “play” energizes us. It increases our joy, and it is often a pathway to finding more joy – maybe even a new career!

Practicing “play” can generate creative ideas for your life, lessen your stress, and sometimes help solve problems.

Some experts believe that adults who play live longer and have better relationships.

You don’t have to be an expert to know that people who play more tend to be happier!

How Did You Like To Play As A Kid? 

Take a moment to think about the things you LOVED to do as a child. Maybe you enjoyed riding your bike, hanging out with friends, playing sports, reading comic books, creating artwork or climbing trees….

This weekend, carve out time to do one of the activities you LOVED as a kid.

Maybe you won’t climb a tree – but you could take a beautiful hike!

Have a Playful Weekend!

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

P.S.—Join one of my upcoming Fall Groups, click HERE to learn more!

Will You Regret Staying In Your Comfort Zone?

A ship in the harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.” — John A. Shedd

We all feel vulnerable or uneasy when we decide to try a new skill or career, or make a change in our lives. We risk failure and rejection.

But growing requires that we go beyond what feels comfortable.

Likewise, asking for what we want can feel uncomfortable.

But If I am Comfortable, Why Bother Growing? 

Of course, you don’t have to move out of your comfort zone. It’s often safe and easy.

But it can be more painful to stay there.

Hospice caregivers report that people at the end of their lives feel most regretful about what they didn’t try, do or say.

Think about the cost to you if you never:

  • Go for that dream.
  • Take that special trip.
  • Ask for that promotion.
  • Write that book.
  • Try that new career.
  • Spend more quality time with your kids.

When You Break Out of Your Comfort Zone, You Will Have No Regrets 

I have worked with many women who had to become “uncomfortable” to get what they wanted – whether it was changing careers, asking for more money or flexibility, or asking their spouse to seek counseling.

When people move out of their comfort zones, I see one common theme: They have no regrets, regardless of whether they are successful.

So here’s a mini-challenge for you:

  • Think about what you really want to achieve, have or become.
  • Now imagine you are at the end of your life and you have never tried to go after any of those things.
  • Do you think you would feel regretful?
  • If the answer is “yes”… This is good to know.

There is no better time to start taking a small step towards what you really want!

I’d love to hear how you are breaking out of your comfort zone!

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

P.S.—If  you want help coming out of your comfort zone….Join one of my upcoming Fall Groups, click HERE to learn more!

“I Tripled My Income … ” 

“I Tripled My Income On A Project…” 

…my client “Rachel”* excitedly told 🎉 me after a recent coaching session. 

Rachel wasn’t planning to ask for a rate increase but decided she deserved one. She had some fears about how her client “John” would react.

Initially, John did not respond well. He was upset and tried to argue over why Rachel shouldn’t receive more money.

Rachel, however, stood her ground.

Not only did John agree to triple Rachel’s income 💰 on a project and increase her compensation on commissions, something else interesting happened.

John had a new respect for Rachel. He told Rachel that by advocating for herself, she had showed John that “Rachel was worth it.”

When We Teach People To Treat Us Better, They Often Respect Us MORE.

Sometimes we need to teach people WHY we are “worth it.”

Whether it is a personal, work or parental relationship, sometimes we need to articulate WHY we should be paid more, work less, enjoy more flexibility or be treated with more respect.

We then need to ASK 📣 specifically for what we want.

Often, when we teach people how to treat us, they will respect us MORE, just like John did with Rachel.

Once You Have Asked For What You Want, Have Your Boundaries Ready.

And once we explain WHY, we need to set boundaries for what is and what is not acceptable.

For example:

  • Rachel was ready for John to say “no,” and she had organized her plan to continue working for him, for a while, but eventually quit.
  • “Becky” was prepared to work from home more and say “no” to extra projects in order to spend more time with her family. She was ready for some “disapproving” looks or comments from her boss and colleagues — and she was ready to look for another job, if needed.
  • “Lauren” was set to leave the room and to remove media privileges if her children yelled or were disrespectful towards her.

How Are You Asking Others To Treat You? 

Take a moment to think about how you want to be treated BETTER in a work or personal relationship.

If needed, explain WHY you should be paid more, or work less, or be treated with more respect.

Then, ASK for exactly what you want.

Be READY for the worst-case scenario… but EXPECT the best!

You may be really surprised.😀

I’d love to hear how you are asking to be treated!

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Kathy

P.S.– Local Friends, please come to hear me speak on “How To Have More Freedom, Money & Joy… By Doing Less,” at the Women’s “Be a Better You Expo,” this Sunday, August 19, at The Westin Northshore Chicago. I’d 💜 to connect with you!

P.S.S.– If you want some help on creating more Freedom, Money or Joy for YOU, schedule a FREE mini coaching session with me HERE.  I am only doing 2 per week, so grab your spot NOW!

*P.S.S.S.– “Rachel,” “Becky” and “Lauren” are all REAL clients, with names and details changed!