Voyage Chicago Article!

Here is a recent article I was featured in by Voyage Chicago:

http://voyagechicago.com/interview/meet-kathy-mccabe-kathy-mccabe-coaching-real-joy-northern-suburbs/

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Kathy McCabe
Life Coach

P.S. My current small group coaching programs are full. If you are interested in my summer 2018 small group coaching program, click HERE to get on the list. If you are interested in my Fall 2018 group coaching program, click HERE to get on the list.

If you are interested in individual coaching, I am offering a FREE 30-minute mini session. I am only doing 2 per week. Sign up HERE if you would like to schedule one!

How To Get Unstuck When You Don’t Know What To Do

I like to think of any emotion I have as a choice.

I have written before in a blog about how science supports that we don’t have to be a victim of our emotions.

If I work on my thoughts about the emotion I want to feel, I can change that emotion — or generate a new one.

Two Types Of ‘I Don’t Know’

Choosing to be “Confused” or stuck in “I Don’t Know” mode about anything is generally not helpful to anyone.

There are two ways to interpret “I Don’t Know”:

1) “I Don’t Know” because you need more information. For example, this “I Don’t Know” could be when you are deciding on a car purchase, and you are not sure which one to buy. You may want to look into types of cars, their safety ratings, and prices. You may stay in “I Don’t Know” mode until you have accumulated enough details to make an informed decision. This type of “I Don’t Know” can help drive you to seek the right solution.

2) The second “I Don’t Know” mode is when you are unwilling or afraid to commit to a decision. For example, stating, “I don’t know what to do with my career,” typically makes you feel stuck. It usually does not move you forward in any way. Notice if you have been trapped in this thought pattern. When I am, I typically do nothing. Deciding to pick an area that you are interested in can be really helpful.

So often we get stuck in the “I Don’t Know” mode because we are afraid to make a ‘wrong choice.’ Or we know the choice to make, but we don’t want to voice that choice.

This “I Don’t Know” mode is never helpful.

Decide And Commit To Knowing Your Next Step  

The solution to the stuck “I Don’t Know” mode Is Deciding and Committing. 

If you are confused about your career or a relationship, Decide to take one small step to help you clear the confusion. Then, Commit fully to that next step.

For example, you could “Decide” to pursue one project at work that falls outside of your regular job description because you find that work interesting. You then commit for the next 3 or 6 months to that new work. You don’t allow yourself to go into the “I Don’t Know” stuck mode because you have made a decision and commitment to your next step.

The same holds true for a relationship you might say you “Don’t Know” what to do about. You decide to stay, to go, or to get counseling. You can then commit to a time frame that feels comfortable to you.

Knowing your next small step is so powerful and always keeps you unstuck!

Or, if you are still overwhelmed and not sure about your next small step, you might consider committing to work with a life coach who can help you find it! 😀

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P.S. My current small group coaching programs are full. If you are interested in my summer 2018 small group coaching program, click HERE to get on the list. If you are interested in my Fall 2018 group coaching program, click HERE to get on the list.

If you are interested in individual coaching, I am offering a FREE 30-minute mini session. I am only doing 2 per week. Sign up HERE if you would like to schedule one!

What’s Your Daily ‘Mental’ Workout?

Great Overall Health Includes Great Mental Health:

As the former Surgeon General Vivek Murthy stated, emotional well-being is not just the absence of mental illness. 

Dr. Murthy stated that emotional well-being is a resource that allows us to do more and to perform better

Of course, people suffering from mental illness should always seek professional medical care and not feel stigmatized. The brain is part of the body. Having a mental illness is no different than having a physical illness, such as diabetes.

But for the 80 percent of the population who don’t suffer from mental illness, how much time do we spend on creating GREAT mental wellness for ourselves? 

Great emotional well-being will help you advance your career, improve your relationships, and parent better.  

How Much Time Do you Spend On Your Daily ‘Mental’ Workout? 

We all know the importance of improving and creating great physical health. Dr. Murthy says that having good mental health is as important as eating a healthy diet.  

Many of us spend lots of time and money on this: gym memberships, yoga classes, supplements, healthy meal plans, or focusing on a good, long walk each day.    

How much time do you spend each day creating or learning how to create positive emotions to be resilient? 

Great mental health includes having a resilient, positive mindset in all situations. Easier said than done!

Tips for Creating a Resilient & Positive Mindset:  

According to Dr. Murthy, basic things like getting 8 hours of sleep, meditation, having a gratitude practice, and social supports are all very helpful to our mental health. 

I would add that having a practice to cultivate a resilient, positive mindset is powerful and will help you with your mental wellness. 

How do you cultivate a resilient, positive mindset? Here are a few suggestions:

  1. PRACTICE the “Triple 3s,” a tool adapted from Dan Sullivan, at the end of each day. Think of: 3 things you are grateful for; 3 ‘wins’ you had for the day – no matter what happened; and 3 wins you will have tomorrow! When you consistently practice this type of thinking, it will become more natural for you throughout the day.
  2. Become AWARE of your thoughts! Writing for 5 minutes about your thoughts is very powerful. Once you are aware of your thoughts, decide whether those thoughts will help you with your mindset for the day. If you need help with this, download my free “Create a Great Day Tool” to help you.
  3. DECIDE on your mindset or intention for the day. Do I want to be committed, peaceful, or purposeful?
  4. ASK, when you are faced with any adversity: “How could this be a good thing? Keep asking yourself this question until you get an answer. This is a powerful practice.
  5. UNPLUGdaily and regularly — from social media. There are many studies that show spending too much time on social media makes us more anxious and unhappy. Looking at “perfect” photos when you are not feeling your best does not help your mindset!
  6. Get HELP when needed: For those of you who may suffer from a mental illness, always seek help from a trained psychiatrist or therapist first, which I am not. There is no shame in asking for help. For those of you who may just need some extra help with your positive mindset, a great life coach might help! 😄

What is most important is determining what tools help YOU in creating great mental wellness, and practicing those tools as often as you can.

I’d love to hear if you have other ways that you create a great daily mental workout for you!

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P.S. My current small group coaching programs are full. If you are interested in my summer 2018 small group coaching program, click HERE to get on the list. If you are interested in my Fall 2018 group coaching program, click HERE to get on the list. 

If you are interested in individual coaching, I am offering a FREE 30-minute mini session. I am only doing 2 per week. Sign up HERE if you would like to schedule one!